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Does being on A F F imply anything about what relationship level people are seeking?
Does being on A F F imply anything about what relationship level people are seeking? Does being a member of this site create an implied desire that members do not want a traditional dating relationship? Of course if you expressly state in your profile what exactly it is you ARE looking for (which is the best idea in my opinion – now if just more people would read them) then there is no need to imply anything. Obviously what someone chooses to share in their profile should always guide the thought process – most people are not writing things for amusement purposes only – they actually mean what they have said (shocking as that may be to some). What I’m curious about is what your opinions are of members who have not addressed this directly. I ask because I personally came here above other options specifically because I am not looking for a girlfriend/relationship on that level and I thought this would be the place to find it. Please do not misconstrue the point of this: there is never an implied grant of sex or anything of that nature as some seem to behave as though there is. I came here to find something more than “just sex” but without the drama that seems to attend a relationship when typical expectations enter the picture. I would never so much as attempt to say to anyone that, “I think you’re in the wrong place.” Who am I to make such a judgment? Frankly, I’m tame by comparison to many on the site and I’m sure there are some who probably think I’m shopping on the wrong isle for what I am looking for anyway; fair enough and to each his own. I’ve been a little frustrated with some of my interactions because it becomes clear rather quickly that who I’m corresponding with is looking for a “boyfriend”. As an aside, I know I’m rather innocent looking (in addition to being very courteous or even timid to the point of appearing shy in some ways) and thus more prone to attract this type of attention; i.e. I can come across as more of the boyfriend type than the dream lover type. Those seeking boyfriends, and who are corresponding with me, bother me on two levels: one, I have said flat out in my (long) profile that I’m not interested in that and, two, and this is really the point, I chose this site because I thought there was basically an implied intent not to date in the traditional sense by most members here. Of course that is a generalization but am I just totally looking at this the wrong way? |
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7/17/2013 1:57 pm |
I really loved your profile but I think most people don't bother to read what u write at all. It becomes apparent when u start to talk to them. It is something that bothers me about this site. I am not here to find my soulmate but I am a go with the flow kind of person. One thing I have learned from meeting and talking with people on this site is that u never know what lurks beneath an innocent face. Some of the dirtiest minds have an angelic face. And I love that.
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